I am not physically attracted to my husband anymore. I love him to death, but each time he touches me, I cringe.
I drank too much at a party over the weekend and may have accidentally kissed a woman. No one knows, but my conscious is eating me up inside. I’ll never see her again and I don’t even know her name.
Ultimately, this discussion was not so much about who should pay, but more about the feelings that can arise around money based on each person’s past experiences and beliefs. Projecting these emotions onto the situation without examining them can derail the relationship before it even gets started.
In a perfect world, the holidays offer the best of times filled with warmth and companionship. We luxuriate in the love of those who mean everything to us. When a loss occurs, not only are celebratory patterns threatened, but suddenly it becomes painful to negotiate a regular day.