What should I do when my 45-year old son tells me he has the right to correct my driving? He thinks I drive badly and that he has special privileges as a passenger. I’m 76 and have zero accidents or speeding tickets in 46 years of driving. Plus, my doctor just gave me flying colors on a physical health assessment.
– Crazy in California
Dear Crazy in California,
Wow! I don’t know anyone who hasn’t had a ticket or even a fender bender – kudos! So, what are you going to do about your (possibly) overprotective son? You could let him drive, and if you wanted to give him a few tips now and then (from the back seat, of course), I’m sure he’d appreciate it, just as you do.
More seriously, though, why don’t you ask him to explain his concerns? Has he noticed some deterioration in your driving skills? Is there something in particular that is bugging him – such as being overly cautious or failing to look in the rear view mirror? If he’s not just being super controlling and is really concerned about you, it might be good for your relationship to reassure him of your state of health and your driving ability. You might decide to err on the side of diplomacy and thank him for his feedback. Or not.